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Fear and Anger
Fear and Anger are basic and “normal” human emotions. Fear is the reaction of the female (yin) energy within people; anger is the reaction of the male (yang) energy within people. Fear makes us cautious, anger makes us bold. We need caution to interpret situations and we need boldness to get into action. Our emotions tell us what we need. That is how easy it is.
But it is not really easy, considering how we use these energies and what comes from it. We are collectively afraid of fear and anger, and collectively we use violence and cruelty to “structure” anger and fear. We are raised and are raising our children to “not be afraid” and “not be angry,” thus teaching them to compensate in all kinds of manners.
Our schools are afraid that our children will not be interested in learning (forgetting that children without school learned to speak, walk, be social, etc). Schools use unhealthy competition, insults, threats, and punishment to compensate for that fear. Our country is afraid that it will not have enough, so it organizes violence in the form of army’s and warfare. People are afraid to speak their truth, so they smile in each others face and gossip behind their backs. Our companies are afraid that they will not have enough customers, so they lure you in with nice promises and try to get out from under their promises or charge exorbitant finance fees. Our religions use violence because they are afraid that people will or will not remember their spiritual nature, and threaten with hell and damnation when rules are not followed. Our society is so afraid of sexuality that is comes out as abuse and power plays.
When we structure anger and fear, we make it impersonal. We make it so impersonal that being angry with a representative of any organization does not work because they are only doing their job. We make it so impersonal that our “enemies” are not human anymore, so we can easily kill them or hurt them.
Instead of using “fear” as a sign to reconsider what is going on, and anger, irritation or frustration to consider what the right action could be, we snow it under and make an “impersonal” structure so that we don’t have to think about it.
It takes courage to look into your fears. It takes dealing with fear to act courageously.
The New Children -- the Indigos, Crystal, and Star Children -- are extremely sensitive to these compensated fears and angers. They come here to teach us to do it differently. What they need from their parents and teachers is training in how to deal with fear and anger.
That is not easy, because neither parents nor teachers know exactly how to do that. Mind the amount of tranquilizers and other psychotropic medication that is being swallowed every day.
Some suggestions:
First of all, make fear and anger personal again. Show children when you are afraid and when you are angry (they know anyway). Take time to look into these issues for yourself, they are also your teachers.
Use gentleness and inquiry when there is fear. What do you see, what are you afraid of, what is the worst thing that could happen. Explain how things work, teach to count between a lightning flash and a thunder clap. Explain how automatically flushing toilets work. Let them explain what they see and teach them to send away dark spirits, or let their angels do it for them. When there is fear, there is a need for pioneer and scouting work. Are you afraid to die, to mess up your children’s life, to be left alone, to be homeless and poor, to go crazy…
Be aware when you are angry, irritated or frustrated. Feel when and where it starts in your body. Do not judge it. It is a surge of energy. It is a sign of action not taken, a misinterpretation, and a call for wise action. Go run or jump, or announce that you are angry and need to yell or cannot be nice for a (short) while. Announce when the anger is over and you can talk about what happened, or can be nice again. If you stay in contact with your anger, it is like a wave. It comes and goes. Ask yourself what you are really angry or afraid about. Is there a better way to take action? When there is anger there is often despair, a hopelessness, a not knowing what to do anymore, a hidden fear. Do not judge it, do not push it down, and do not make a “structure” so you don’t have to deal with it. That is when you start compensating, manipulating, and hurting yourself and others, limiting your world.
Teach your children to recognize their anger. Let them feel the wave of anger come up and release again. Ask them what they can do to feel better. Are you happy with that or would you like to learn to do it differently?
Fear and anger are highly flammable. Fear and anger have a very strong resonance field. Use caution and be aware when you pick up fear and/or anger from your environment.
Seek professional help if you have a lot of old fears or angers. Listen to your guidance and intuition. You are wiser than you have been taught you are. Ask and you will be given.
Suggested reading: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. His website is: www.nonviolentcommunication.com.
Mica